Yes, it is helpful. As long as you don't stay there for too long. What makes me laugh is how my ex thinks I'm bitter. Or bipolar. Or narcissistic. Or whatever else. It's been many years now. And yet she doesn't seem to want to let go for whatever reason. I suspect so she can have somewhere to direct her anger vs. taking the responsibility for her actions. But I totally get the idea of the alien. I still see the conflict in her emails. Trying to get a rise.
It was that behavior that I think, made it take longer to get past. It made no sense. Still doesn't, but it no longer matters that it makes no sense. What about anything in MLC does? So even though it continues, I don't have to be on high alert any longer. I was shocked to see how much I still was even after all this time. Time does help as long as we continue to work on detaching and forgiveness. At least in my opinion.
I totally get what you're saying Punkin, about him reconnecting with the daughters and grandson. Does that mean he's coming to you next? That's a tough thought, because it means you'll have to be tested on how far you've come.
Don't worry though. You'll do just fine. Anger or not, you'll do what's right for you. It may be uncomfortable for a little while if that happens. It may never happen, but...I think what we're seeing in B's post is the discomfort of somebody who had been important from her past entering her present. It helps to let the anger go and stay in the past too.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
