M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
I've been thinking about people who've come and gone on these boards since I joined. There are so many that I wonder about...
The prison guard from CO, can't remember his screen name, Autumn Leaves, Tumbling, there are several others that I keep in touch with but who no longer post here.
I've thought many times "I'm done with that board!" but I come back and the people here have given me a lot. Even just reading along changes you.
I know I respond to threads that I relate to in some way and work through my own stuff in responding. It seems so much clearer when you're not emotionally involved.
So I thank everyone who bares their soul here.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Thanks, GTO. Being willing to listen to and accept things I don't want to hear has been a major growth step for me.
Soooooo IRL,
I got a ticket for running a red light. And when it's all said and done, it'll come to $420.00! That's the fine and payment for a day in Traffic Survival School. Ouch!
We have photo enforcement here and it's me, plain as day at an intersection I pass through everyday. I must have been trying to get through on a yellow... I have become a very calm driver, not rushing, not pulling up in the intersection to wait on the green arrow when making a left turn, not getting POd at other drivers, so I'm not sure I'll learn anything from this expensive lesson. At least not about driving.
I've decided to look at it like this, in all the years I've been driving, I've had one accident (fender-bender, I was at fault) and no other tickets. So if I amortize the $420 over 40 years that's $10/yr.
That feels much better.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Just read this and thought it was apropos of my story above...
The streetlight turned yellow, so he stopped his car at the crosswalk instead of accelerating through the intersection to beat the red light. The woman who was driving behind him got really angry and started honking her horn. She was extremely mad that she missed her chance to cross the intersection behind him (and because stopping the car made everything on her lap drop to the floor: cell phone, makeup, and half a sandwich).
She was still in the middle of yelling and cussing at the man in front of her when she heard a tap on her window and looked up to see the face of a very serious police officer. He ordered her to exit the vehicle with her hands up and took her down to the police station to be searched, fingerprinted, photographed, and placed in a holding cell.
After a couple of hours, she was escorted back to the booking desk where the arresting officer was waiting with her personal belongings. "I'm very sorry for this mistake. When I pulled up behind your car, you were blowing your horn, flipping off the guy in front of you, and cussing up a storm. But it didn't make sense... You have the 'What Would Jesus Do' license plate frame on the car, the 'Namaste' decal on the back window, and the 'Coexist' bumper sticker, so I figured you had stolen the car. My Bad!" lol...
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
I was caught speeding last summer with one of those photo enforcement systems. It's sort of humiliating the way they send you the picture of you caught in the act.
H: 38 xW: 38 M: 16 T: 18 S: 9 BD: 2/2012 W moved out 4/2012 D: 11/2012
