Life, continued (22+ months)

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You don't have time to deal with scuba lessons period -- just say "no" and leave it at that.

Things don't get said, get misinterpreted, people get frustrated and don't say anything, everyone thinks they're being nice and they're getting mad and won't admit it. Like that. I've been watching it more closely with my sister and find that she really seems to be trying to get everyone around her to do things she wants done.

90% of communication is non-verbal. Are you contributing tone or body language that may be fueling this? If you see it as a pattern in many people you interact with then either it's something about you reflecting back, or you're unlucky to attract or be related to a few people with a similar dysfunction. Either is probably equally as likely or a mix? Something to discuss with T? I have observed that when you don't agree with people you can come on very strong with an implied "so there!" at the end. Maybe that contributes? Don't know.

If she wanted to know what they actually asked for for their birthdays,

Some people like to ask what you want and give you exactly that. Some people like to surprise you with something they feel you will like, some people like to share with you something they like. Are any of those approaches wrong? Why?

This present idea is a lot more about her seeming super cool than it is about them, what they would want, who they are.

Harsh judgement no? Okay if you are venting

My sister said the doctor wants to poison her to death with chemo. She knows one person who had chemo at an advanced age and refused to eat and died from infected bedsores because he could no longer get up and walk around

Your sister is scared! She feels helpless and isn't used to it. She's trying to do anything to give herself a feeling of control. Maybe talk to her about her fear?

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