I believe your posting will help others see that even if the marriage doesn't survive, they will.

You and your son have traveled a very rough and bumpy road, but both of you have grown stronger, wiser and more compassionate along the way.

You are a survivor and a success story. My hat's off to you, as well as your son.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.