Sorry about the arthritis - I take it you are not one of the people who are responding to the relatively new wonder drugs for arthritis. I know two people who are taking them and it has changed their lives.
It takes a very very long tme to get past all of this. Shock, betrayal, grief, you name it . . . Fortunately we are resilient and it gradually comes good, but the loss of the person you expected to grow old with is tough, especially when they turn into Monster alien.
I feel as if winter is never going to end, and have had a difficult work project - nice to have the work, but much of the difficulty was not inhenrent in the work itself, but the prima donnas around it! Keeping them happy and talking to each other took up far more of the project than any sane person would think necessary!
