I'm a little confused after phone coaching session

[labug]

Rebecca, I feel for you on this. My first response is anger but probably because it sounds so similar to my sitch. Basically he says, "I know I played a part but YOU were really the problem"

This "Anyways, no need to rehash old reasons or excuses" but he did it anyway, didn't he.

Even tho we can only work on our part, we do need to recognize that nothing happens in a vacuum. As someone else said, we can give 100% to working on our 50%.

You are right to move forward from this and work on your side of the street.

Be honest with yourself about what you hope to get out of the therapy. He's pretty clear on his goals.

In what your H says about you in regards to "rampage," I recognize myself. You can build an even better R with your Ds than you knew possible now that you have the tools. I know, I've done it. Work on that, put your energy into that. Your successes will give you confidence in all your other Rs.

Let your H sort out his stuff.

You figure out who Rebecca really is because I think you lost her long ago.

This will take a long time and sometimes forward progress is measured in millimeters.

You can do it. Look at all you've already done.