OMG!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you. Once you began explaining about 'the script' it all came back to me. I was thinking it was a seperate one from the script we all went through pre and during our divorce, but what you said, Beatrice and Snodderly! My XH was career military. Army brat childhood. During a split earlier in our marriage, I even went so far as to have a T shirt made for him that said IT'S NOT MY FAULT printed upside down on his chest so he could look down and see it.
This helps explain, or at least I think it does, his latest actions. He has gone for well over a year without any sort of contact with our D's. Then, after a chance meeting with youngest D, in which our grandson did not know who he was, he suddenly began texting them both again at absurdly late hours. ( Girls think he was drunk)Could it be that this was his way of reaching out to see if his punishment (i.e., grandson not knowing him) was done and he could be forgiven now?
Sorry, don't mean to hijack, but this has been bugging me.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011