Punkin - great to hear from you! I think that what Cadet and others are referring to is that MLC appears to play out in a very similar way, and they say similar things and exhibit similar behaviours. Times scales are different, but they seem to do the same sorts of things at particular stages. The anger, meanness and venting in the early stages for example, the sense of entitlement, neglect of family and so on.
I have not seen my xh hit bottom though, and I am not sure that he ever has, and I am also certain that he has never faced his demons. BUT he is doing and saying a lot of things that we are told they do and say towards the end of the crisis.
He no longer appears to be in the grip of the crisis, but because he hasn't hit bottom and really worked on himself, I believe he will always be somewhat stuck. As my eldest son said though, 'It is a lot better than where he has been for the past 7+ years' He seems worn out by it all. But he has't spewed at me at either of his two recent encounters, which is nice.
The most telling thing for me though is the sense that he is'there' again. It is hard to explain to someone who has not gone through this, but the alien has largely gone, and the real him is back in there, but he seems a bit deflated. Not surprising really because the alien took up all the living space for a long long time. The alien may come back.
My xh woke up briefly at the beginning of 2010 but didn't make any attempt then to reconnect with his children and went scuttling back into the tunnel.
I have the strangest sense of detachment about it all.
