Thanks for sharing FY. I know this feeling of coolness and no connecting. It hurts. What my W has indicated is that she didn't feel enough emotional connection in our M. Yet, since our sitch began I feel our connection and closeness has descended and this is hard to take. Feel like my W is making no effort to turn this around. As I've seen stated on this forum I guess us LBSers need to do the heavy lifting.
Also, feel like we are simply friendly neighbors at this point.
Just been really down more than not in the last couple weeks. Feel like I'm going through the grieving of the loss of my best friend and partner. That feeling has really hit me hard recently.
Happy I have some friends to turn to and actually couple of friends that are periodically checking on me. So keeps me going.
I admire your patience FY.
VG, I feel the pain in your words. Know that you cannot force the connection you so much desire. She has to come to you. She will not until she is ready. Stop trying so hard and focus on you. I know, much easier said than done, but it is the only way.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
