You sound as if you're doing really well. I hope your TKD presentation is a success on Friday. It's great that you have something like that in your life.
I guess it's been about a year since the ILYBINILWY speech. How do you feel that you are doing now compared to a year ago? Maybe it's a good time to recap how you've changed and your 180s and look ahead to more.
Hearing about you and your sitch helps me with mine. I admire your patience and steadfastness.
Thanks Wendy! It took me a year to get to where I am now. I think the longer you have been married, the longer it takes to detach. We've been married for almost 30 years, and met when we were still kids! I think people in shorter marriages, or who met later in life, could get over the kind of rejection I faced, and still face, quicker than I did. Life with my wife committed to me is almost all I ever knew!
I look forward to adding more meaning and purpose in my life, while letting W figure herself out. I hope I can do it, as I still struggle every week. I've always been a bit of a loaner, so maybe that's helping me a bit now.
As far as "patience and steadfastness", what else can I do? I have zero interest in starting up a relationship with someone new. (who would only have their own issues, and of course would come with no guarantee of lasting happiness)
I would love nothing more than for my W to reconnect with me, so here I stand. Thank you for your help, my DB brothers and sisters!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
