Sorry that came off a little harsh - when I say you need to drive the D process if she isn't going to do it its because you need to take control. You can always decide to not go through with it if needed. At least you are then seen as actively driving the decision making process and in some kind of control rather than letting her drive, which may help your M in the end.
I know it made a difference in mine but at that time I had truly moved on. Its funny, but I read so many times that the WAW finally comes around once you TRULY let go, and that is at a point where you may have actually decided you don't want to stay with WAW. There is a clear truth in the situation - you have truly let go and then they want to come back when its too late (at least that is what happened to me). Maybe people who can act 'as if' don't need to get this far, and those are the ones who have hope of staying together.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
