A) totally forgot....have lovely herbal tea though, and some monkey poo coffee....don't ask.
B) it's all gotta come out eventually. Don't stress too much . And let the OM thing go in your head. It will only make you nuts trying to figure it out. My only thoughts are custody and money, but what are adultery consequences there? In my province....nada
Same as in this province...nada...no-fault. Either way we are separated so what would it matter if I did or she did in the current circumstance? Just weird that she keeps lettering it....it actually costs us both money for L's to write and respond. For what? Denying something that does not matter? Okay, I am asking...what is monkey poo coffee?
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Hey Breakdown, what's up with the monkey poo coffee?
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
I just spit up a little. Hysterical! Meeting my L in an hour to prepare for Tuesday's meeting. Yep, stress is high. Gotta prepare for the daggers that will inevitably be thrown. Oddly, my L is bent on getting reconciliation window open and wants a chance to speak with her during that meeting. I don't think it will fly but he is insistent to get to the root of her issue and anger and bridge co-parenting and getting to amicable. Not sure what his tactic will be but says with all conscience it must be tried.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Good luck Floyd and try not to be so negative. While no expectations is a good thing, the whole Eeyore thing isn't.
Let your lawyer do what he intends. But I know you are convincing yourself the other way because the hurt will be less if it plays out as you think. I don't think it will lessen it at all, it wouldn't for me. This is the most hopeful board and it is, in part, what keeps us all going. Keeps us strong enough until we can stand with ourselves..
Hi Floydman, Your recent post just reminded me a friend who is also going through D and she claims her L is best therapist she's ever had, and she's had quite a few ;-)
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
Thanks gang. He seems like a good dude. Had to deal with d10's breakdown tonight. Her mother has no clue what she feels like....completely oblivious. D says her mom never keeps her promises to her and lies to her about what she had promised and denies what she says. Inside I was sick because I know what she is feeling and know what she is talking about. All I could do was button my lips and hold her while she cried and let it out. My d14 seems to gravitate to her mom more and they have a lot of private time and chats. D14 does not seems as close to me anymore. Maybe teenager stuff but W was always jealous of my relationships with the kids. I feel her taking her away from me. Good points Ruby. It is hard not to be negative though. W looked so stressed lately and now has this cocky attitude again.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
. And let the OM thing go in your head. It will only make you nuts trying to figure it out. My only thoughts are custody and money, but what are adultery consequences there? In my province....nada