Poll of the day

[Accuray]

Not at all, I would say the vast majority of the good reconciliation stories you read here happened only after the LBS completely dropped the rope and moved on. It seems the best ingredient for getting back together is no longer caring if you do or not because you are good either way

[RetiringSingle]

Accuray, thanks for your words of wisdom. I was feeling like I was being too much of a pushover by giving in and trying to stay friendly. I was very hurt and angry initially and wanted to show her that her decision to end our marriage will have consequences. When I explained that because I'm not in her life, that I should pull the living expense money but not the food money. That shot across her bow backfired and she used the kids as a shield to guilt-trip me. So I finally gave in on the next conversation and just told her that since her mind is made up to quit, that I'm tired of fighting and I don't like the angry person she's bringing out of me. Let's just do what we have to so the kids won't suffer from us fighting. That was my rationale for trying to be friendly.

[Jeack]

Yeah it definetly gets easier each day. I still think about the old her. But am disgusted with who she is now. Guess the hardest thing for all of us on here is the question, why?

[cbtdad]

Because the old S are the spouse we fell in love with and envisioned a life of happiness with. We had hopes and dreams that are very hard to let go of.
But I will say once I finally realized that no matter what I do, I can't control rather she changes and tries to be that person again, I can only control my thoughts and actions things began to be so much easier.

[Jeack]

Because the old S are the spouse we fell in love with and envisioned a life of happiness with. We had hopes and dreams that are very hard to let go of.
But I will say once I finally realized that no matter what I do, I can't control rather she changes and tries to be that person again, I can only control my thoughts and actions things began to be so much easier.

So true. I on one hand don't want to sign and hope she comes around. But realize these are her decisions! I cannot change her. I definitely feel like i've lost her. I emailed her a few days back about needing her to sign our local tax returns and She has credit cards she has left at the house. no response

[Jeack]

Well still waiting for papers. She hasn't responded to my email last Thursday about signing local taxes. All she's done was change he last name to her maiden name on Facebook. Guess I'm still in denial about everything. A bill collector called my cell phone looking for her cause she owes a college 5k that's in collections. I feel bad for her, but wonder why? Too many whys

[Jeack]

Still waiting. I'm starting to think she didn't even file. Now the million dollar questions is do I just do it. She's made no efforts to contact me. Everyone is telling me just to do it. Wish I had a crystal ball right about now.