As my title says, my sitch isn't typical. I'm active duty mil overseas married to a foreign national for 9 years. I'm 19 mos from retiring and was planning to stay overseas with my wife and children. We've been separated (by choice of career and opportunities) for 6 of those 9. We've maintained two households and visited each other at least twice a year during that time. Our eye on the prize was for me to finish my mil career and for her to graduate school and start her career. We supported each other for this decision. Of course, since we've been apart so frequently I lost touch on my priorities and slacked off on showing that I love her physically. I also slacked on the "small things" that mean so much in a R. I instead was showing my love in other ways such as emotional support and monetary support so my family could reside comfortably overseas while I was temporarily stateside for 3 yrs. I finally got an assignment on the same continent as them and was led to believe that matters were going to be able to be mended. Well long story short, she did the BD on 8 Feb and I've been beside myself since. My reason for posting is how can I work my DBing when we don't see each other due to living in different countries? Right now I'm applying the communication distancing. So far it's been only 5 days since last talking to each other on the phone. All of your stories have been inspirational to me and I've read the book, but I think my sitch is too unique and she's been used to being without me for too long. I'm just hoping that time will assist and she'll snap out of it. It's just foolish of her to quit so close to the "finish line." I don't get it. I'm not saying that I don't have flaws, but she refuses to give me the opportunity to see how things go after I retire.
