PM, just caught up on your scenario, thanks for visiting my thread.
Seems like there are quite a few similarities in terms of 180s. Some differences in terms involving OM and drinking which I am sure make it even more challenging. I don't think that there is OM in my sitch (an EA about 1.5 years ago that I think may have helped trigger things) but maybe I am just being optimistic (or naive).
Sounds like you are doing what you need to for you and your D's so keep staying strong for them....... Thoughts and prayers are with you.
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork