Sorry you're going through this but it won't be the end of the world. It will be painful but you've gone through painful things before, right?

13 days between contact is a loooong time in the life of a 17 month old. That's a lot to deal with in his growing brain (the S, not the H)

You will be his stability in this.

Is there any type of support group you can attend in your area?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss