Glad to hear that overall you and your H are still moving forward, together.
To piggy back off of SS's suggestion, EMDR is a widely recommended technique for helping sufferers of trauma. Checking with your therapist to see if they hold that certification wouldn't hurt.
Alternatively Google Yvonne Dolan. She is a world renowned therapist helping with victims of sex abuse - her techniques could most likely be applied to your / our sichs in healing.
