Turtle, just because you want to be prepared does not mean you think divorce is down the line. There is nothing wrong with knowing exactly where you can stand and I think that it takes away part of the fear, knowing the unknown.
H asked at the beginning if I had seen a lawyer and I said yes. He was not happy. I explained that for twenty years, I had essentially been a stay at home mom, with basically no assets in my name. I had to know where I stood and where the children stood. No apologies. It was to familiarize myself with all aspects since I had never entertained this before. He came around eventually when he saw that I wasn't out to screw him lol.
I was just simply informing myself. Knowledge is power. Not over someone but for yourself. When you know all the facets it takes away the fear.
