I didn't want to say this because I hate hurting you. I care about you and always will, but I feel no physical attraction to you. i haven't for a long time. I have tried to get it back. Even on all of the vacations we have been on, I wanted to feel something, but I just felt empty. I am sorry. I know that is hard to hear and I am sorry. I don't think once it has been gone so long, I can get it back. my focus would be on her not wanting to hurt (or anger) you...
But I think your focus is on this below...but I don't buy it. Sorry...if she's telling the truth which is only how she feels atm, it means a lot of her love for you was wrapped in attraction and a lot of belittling and fighting, wore it down.
Can you explain this a little better. What would you get from focussing on that line? Also, if a lot of her love for me was wrapped in attraction, doesn't that make my fight to get her back even harder? How can I regain that attraction?
Originally Posted By: suckerpunch
I know this isn't your fault. It is my issues that created that distance and made us lose connection
I think she's letting you off the hook and with that ONE conversation you'll want to revise your part in things. But you do so at your peril.
you totally lost me here. Revise my part how? And how do I avoid peril? I don't get your meaning here
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
SP, you seem like a man who WANTS to be a great guy. Admirable and noble. I like that.
But you are not there yet. Wanting it and then giving up so fast, means that you have a ways to go.
I DO want to be a great guy. I do want to put the work in. I haven't given up on myself, and I haven't given up on my love for my wife. I just detached, I guess. It took a while, but things don't effect me as much as they previously did. But rest assured, all my hopes and wish stay the same.
