I'm making progress on detaching. Stopped snooping.
Thursday evening I knew she wanted to go to the gym after work again (she went on Monday and Wednesday already this week). So I purposely came home late after she would be gone because I want to be mysterious – have her guessing what I’m doing. Her mom is here so I know it won’t keep her from going and consequently being mad at me. I think it worked. She came home right afterwards and she also asked me what I did that day in a vague way. I played as if she meant at work, and told her about my workday. She asked again later about my day too.
What was I doing? Well I went shopping for new pants because between losing some weight and exercise I need pants with a smaller waist. I also looked to buy her perfum for her 42nd B-day which is next week. Yes, I decided to buy her a present because our living arrangements are good, and with my DB coach we figured that her main love language is gifts.
I also made some progress in detaching because my instinct when coming home was to drive to the gym to see if she was really there. I did not. Instead I came in, ate dinner, read to my youngest daughter, and then worked on the fire place, which is when my W returned.
After the kids were in bed my wife said, come let's go take a shower. Then we talked about flying (my GAL hobby now) while she was doing her hair.
