I totally agree. This feels very different from other touch and goes, in that the reconnection is getting stronger with the children.
As regards our 'detachment' - and this is just how it seems to me. As they become more reasonable and a little more like their old selves the tension and anxiety drains from us. It is actually very frightening seeing the person you married and loved turn into a cruel, cold and often raging human being. As they begin to re-enter reality our own state shifts, and all the work we have done on ourselves drops into place.
I am not explaining this very well but it isn't just me who has changed here. I do not think there is any joint future, and my xh goes on his way with my blessing and love. It feels wonderful to have got to that place. I haven't replaced him with someone else (although there is certainly nothing wrong with that!) Rather I am finding out who I am, and accepting myself.
