BRNR, you will never be wrong for setting a boundary. Being gracious and being strong are not counter to each other. Being aggressive is counter but setting a boundary that is no-kidding your boundary-do not cross it, is never the wrong thing for you. You have to decide if the boundary you set and may have to enforce is the right one for you. Good for you for waiting ten minutes and thinking it over. That's wisdom and graciousness if you ask me! There's no need to set ridiculous boundaries or get drunk with "power", but continue to look for those boundaries like that. And continue to be gentle about them, but firm. You both need those boundaries believe it or not. And continue to be a safe person he can open up to. Those two things will help you with your sanity and see you through no matter how or what he does
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
