Start from where we left on on the previous thread;
I think I am detached, but not too detached. I still want my wife back in my life dearly. I am just to the point that, if I stay busy and not think about my sitch, I get through the days not even worrying about it or her.
in regards to the ultimatum, it wasn't exactly that. I just asked her what if she had any plans for the future. Obviously she was intrpeting that as a R talk. I was just asking to see if she has any plans in the works for her job promotion or her living situation. Granted, it was a little bit of a loaded question, with me trying to feel her out. However, I was not pressuring or assuming of anything. There was no ultimatum.
Here is a portion of our discussion via text:
I didn't want to say this because I hate hurting you. I care about you and always will, but I feel no physical attraction to you. i haven't for a long time. I have tried to get it back. Even on all of the vacations we have been on, I wanted to feel something, but I just felt empty. I am sorry. I know that is hard to hear and I am sorry. I don't think once it has been gone so long, I can get it back. I know this isn't your fault. It is my issues that created that distance and made us lose connection
