So my final thoughts on today, Her X and I exchanged a few more messages and then I wished him well.
1. He told me a few things last made me feel better. She is experiencing alot of negatives. She is too ashamed to go back to her regular ala-non meeting. She thinks people know & many of the woman there know & love me. Well, I am pretty fabulous, lol.
2. She just told her sister 2 weeks ago & she called her a word that rhymes with 4 and said should H & I D & they try to have an R, that their family won't accept it & she will make sure they all know they ruined his M.
3. They are trying to not see each other.
Well, I have to say...I'm glad it's life that is punishing these 2, and not me. Plus, it turns out that when her H thought he was threatening to tell me, my H had already confessed. I just didn't know who she was. I bet in their little fantasy of running off in the sunset, they knew if I knew who see was, I'm not going to be happy, happy friendly with her. But now...if these 2 end up with each other they are just going to mess each other over. But it seems like reality is coming in to play.
Obviously this changes nothing with H & I. I am glad to know that he is being honest with me & not blowing sunshine at me with the "I'm trying not to see her."
Plus, he acted crazy enough for the 2 of us. Craved some choice words in the headboard (thank god it was always at her house) and destroyed a bunch of her clothes. But, I can imagine that the second betrayal was hard!!! They D & got back together.
H & I are running with the kids in a st patty's day run & doing the parade on Saturday. He may sleep on the couch here because my house is closer & it's early in the morning. I'm a little nervous about it. I've stayed strong in the ML boundary...but I'm preggo i just hope he won't even try it after the last time.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D