Snodderly- I have three sons to whom my xh was a devoted father until the youngest was 18. That is a tremendous legacy, and I cut him a lot of slack for that. Doesn't excuse the way he has behaved during the past 7-8 years, but if any bonds can be forged I am going to do all I can to facilitate that.
My xh was always a very reserved man and I find his current/temporary openness rather disconcerting! I am not very interested in what he is doing, the improvements he is making to his home, and his decision or not to sell . . . . I was passionately interested in his life when we were together, and I found it really hard to let go, but now I have, I do not want to get drawn into anything at all beyond politeness and co-operation. I am sure you feel the same!
