I took some flack here in the Fall when I wrote about the agency head. Because I mentioned that she was a lesbian. A couple of people took that as me having distaste for homosexual people. And I'd like to address that.
I have many gay friends. I have total respect for them and their sexual orientation is a non issue. The point I was trying to make about "C" (agency head) is that she was constantly on the defense as well as the offense. She was a very much "in your face" person and I honestly believe she got that way because she was so defensive of her rights. (again - which I totally agree with). But, as with everything - people of all backgrounds can go too far in their right to defend themselves.
It's like this: there are people who are gay and go about their business just as there are heterosexual folks who do the same. Then there are gay people who are screaming from the rooftops "I'M GAY and I CAN DO WHAT I WANT". when there is no need to do so. Because it's not an issue. Do you get what I mean?
I have a niece who writes on Facebook "I follow Jesus and I don't care who doesn't like it". So defensive. When really - if she wants to follow Jesus or become a Buddist - it's her business - no one else's.
I really do have a point here and hope it doesn't get missed somehow as it did the last time and some folks got offended and said they'd never read my thread again. HARRUMPH!!! Ok - whatever - so don't read my thread. I rarely write anyway.
Each of us has the right to live our lives as we choose. Why all the defensiveness? Just do it. Just live in harmony with a same sex lover (or get married to them in Canada and some states if you choose), make your own religious choices, read what you want.
I believe you live your own life but also consider how your actions and words affect others. My dad always taught me to ask myself "how will my actions affect someone else".
I think "C" has deep seated emotional problems - hence the need to control every situation, leave no room for compromise - be the boss! And I do believe that some of her behaviour was from the defensiveness she felt she had to use as a result of her lifestyle choices. But it was not as if those choices affected me at all.
I hope, somehow you will understand what I'm writing. But it doesn't matter, really. I have the freedom to write what I wish. I don't belive it was intended to upset anyone. Take it or leave it.
