So close I can taste it...

[MrBond]

The reason why you feel like you are getting "beaten up" is because you keep insisting that you've changed, understand her needs, understand everything, etc. Yet you post something like this..." But there is no doubt none of them were serious enough to leave me over."

Just to clear the air, that's why people are so frustrated with you. It's because you keep preaching (and yes it does come across as preaching) about DB yet you haven't actively done it. In fact, you spend more time debating and defending yourself on here than actually writing out your goals.

Then you ask questions and when people respond to something that you don't agree with, you tell them they're wrong, laugh it off, then tell everyone to stick to the subject. I mean, you spent a lengthy period talking about how your W's meds had an impact on what she's doing, and that her doc told you this, etc.; then you say that it's because of your lack of sexual interest and not validating her and that the meds have nothing to do with your situation.

You contradict yourself left and right, and instead of going back to what YOU wrote, you "correct" those who post to you responding to something that YOU wrote.

Okay, forget all the theories, preaching, etc. because they are frustrating as h@ll to get through to you.

And by the way "a WAW normally wants to leave tbe husband, not the family. In other words, she is taking the kids with her. My wife has said more than once that she is leaving D3 with me. In her fantasy she lives with OM alone. Despite her wanting more kids up until 3 weeks before BD, she now wants to be single again. This is more of CRISIS type behavior acccording to my DB coach. "

Not to go against your coach, but we've seen WAWs leave their family on these boards all the time. So that isn't necessarily true.

What are your goals? And I mean measurable actions that you can do within two weeks that you can achieve in your R. And how much of your GAL have you actually done from that long list you wrote earlier.