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I've watched this man get sober, bury his abusive father who committed suicide, take care of his alcoholic mother who then died, all before the age of 30. But I've never seen him cry. I think all of these things are bubbling up, and his way of dealing with everything was living this double life.

Wow, Tallula. Your H has had a very, very rough life. Did he ever go to therapy to dealt with any of his pain? I assume he did a 12 step program for his sobriety, but there seems to be so much he has needed to deal with, make sense and cope with...You may be right - his way of dealing might have been the escape of the double life. Would he be willing to get professional help now? It seems to me it would be crucial for his well-being and for any chance of him having any healthy R - not only with you, but anyone else in his life, specially his kids. Even if you guys don't R, I hope he can get to a healthy place for them.

So, yea, my method of "discussion" was ridiculous. H "So, I was really hurt tuesday when you said you would be home at 5...I interupt "It was wednesday." H "Whatever, when you said that you would be done with your instructing at 5 ...interupting "It was wednesay and I told you I was going to run errands." H "OMG!! Let me finish, I was hurt that you snipped at me that I didn't read your text. I don't care when or where or what time!!!!" Me "I'm sorry, it just seems like you never read all of a text. Well, it was tuesday and I told you..."

:face palm:

I didn't know if I should laugh or cry when I just read this ^^^^. I used to have the same type of dynamic with my H.

((((Tallula))))