Not confused anymore...just anxious and emotional

[greatwhitenorth]

I just read the last couple of pages of your thread and wanted to tell you that You did the right thing in setting a boundary around the use of he MLCphone in your house. Very well handled and congratulations.

Snodderly gives great advice...you are fortunate, as I have been, to have her attention.

I've been at this almost 19 months. Most recently i had been preparing myself to cut ties but I'm wavering again. My H first opened up just a little about nine months after we separated and then a little more each time we made contact. Ironically enough I feel closer to him now than I ever did before. There's more intimacy than ever because he's let me see some of his pain. I believe he loves me as it is almost palpable when we speak. Every few weeks I will text him to see how he is doing on his healing journey and now he calls me right back. It's time, tho, for me to step back and wait for him to initiate contact.

Although I have no kids, something about the few pages of your thread that I read felt familiar so I wanted to pipe in.

It's a long road. Take the high one. Be gracious in your words and behaviors, and as Snodderly said keep moving forward while you practice patience. To be truthful, many of the lessons and the growth I've experienced in the past 18+ months I wouldn't trade for the world.