Dear Tiredanddrained, Our situations are very similar. I am just learning to detach, and to accept the situation as it is. My H dropped the bomb December 6th (I guess), it was hell. Now I am calmer. But I also get some help from modern medicine. I continue my life, so he does. We take care of the kids. I do not make any contact with him unless he initiates it, and I keep it very limited (very good advice I learned from here). Stay put. If you need to cry, cry when he is not around so that you don't explode around him. Keep make-up on, so he won't know you have been crying. Crying, begging, reasoning, they do not work, they just push him away, try not to forget that... Love.
_________________________ Me: 42 Him: 42 M: 15 years T: 16 S10, D4 H changing since Sept 2011, MLC very likely World exploded 9 Dec 2012
