Your h is having a little temper tantrum, so he has to put forth the effort to "punish" you in his own way. Now, it's his house/your house. I wouldn't worry about it too much because he'll either get over himself or he won't.
The reason I do not think your h wants a divorce right now is because he's not threatening you w/the word divorce at every turn. He's been very good about coming to the home, doing things w/both the children and w/you and his entire attitude has been quite different than the normal angry mlcer. He appears to be quite comfortable w/the way things are at this time and doesn't appear to be in any hurry to end the marriage. Keep in mind that I am getting this impression from your postings and it's not to be a "prediction" of what will be or not be, but a sense of what you've posted from your interactions with him.
There is no way of predicting what the outcome would be if you were to push for relationship talks right now. I think it's too soon for the talks and the timing isn't quite right. That's why I suggested setting a goal of several months down the road to see where he's at during that time.
If I were in your shoes, I would stay the course, continue to focus on you and your children and live your life to the fullest. When mlcers see their spouses living their lives and happy, they tend to gravitate towards that candle of happiness. They do not like to be around us when we are angry, resentful, sad and depressed because they are very much aware of what they've done and do not want to feel guilty about the mess they have created.
BRNR, there is always hope for any situation. When you sit quietly, the answers will be revealed to you. Trust me, it does happen. You have to put your trust and faith in God, yourself and your h to get through this crisis.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
