He sounded sincere. But then when I emailed my L (I'm meeting with him tomorrow) and sent him my H's requests, he replied, "Don't believe everything he says." That got me thinking. I mean, my H has been such a liar and a cheater. He's really good at lying. Is he hiding something? My gut tells me he's not, but I've been tricked before. It does sound weird that he had this change of heart so quickly. I could attribute it to my spiel yesterday about me wanting peace as my main goal (we talked for 5-10 minutes yesterday, and that's basically what I said.) Could this have made such an impact? Thoughts?
With his proposal, I would be "losing" some material stuff I could've probably gained had we gone to trial, especially with the reality of his adultery. It's about $10K/year. But I don't want to go to trial. Should I just settle? What he proposed is fair...a little better for him, financially, but fair enough.
Look forward to your thoughts ASAP before I talk to the L tomorrow.
Don't L's try to extend it and go to trial for their own financial interests?
I agree that avoiding trial is worth something. That's guaranteed to increase costs. (and pain, I would think)
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
