I cannot imagine wanting to work on ME if I had not taken on the one thing I could control, which is me.
I mean, if we try to assess/assign blame too early, we'll wallow in our victimhood. AND when we are the LBSer, it's too easy to do that.
I did put my h not so much on my pedestal but the stupid focus (sorry) on MLC that goes at length about how their childhood causes this is, to me crap.
I had already been to a T for my childhood issues (Essential Experience workshop AND SO DID H!)
so that was sort of a bite of an irrelevant apple. I now think that h convinced himself that what he wanted, he deserved b/c he works hard and always has gotten what he wanted.
When it didn't pay off, he missed us and wanted us back. THE END...far as HE is concerned.
But I had to DO SOMETHING with my life other than wait for him to decide. SO I GAL and I mean, big time GAL.
and worked on me so I'd be happier and much much LESS angry.
That all helped too.
My concern Denver, is not men like you at all. I know you are a better person for this.
My concern is the men who are SO HAPPY to say "it's HER wacky stuff" and women who want to say "My h is in MLC"
and none of them seeing how that keeps them where they are, losing their family. They ought to own up to all they can and work their butts off to become people only a fool would leave, and later on, assess reality more. That takes time.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
