Wife privileges reinstated, back in my own bed!

[mamabird]

I do feel like I'm pretty good at expressing my feelings, but it's possible that I do it in a defensive way. I know that certainly they are received in a defensive way, which makes me less likely to want to express them. At the end of the day it's just not worth it sometimes.

Controlling behavior - the feedback I get is that I am controlling. I certainly have preconceived notions about how things are to go. I actually feel like I give my husband a lot of leeway but I am sure he doesn't see it like that. I probably would qualify as controlling under most people's definition.

So yes, I am angry, mostly because I feel unsupported in so many ways and also because my H refuses to give me the benefit of the doubt. Also he doesn't take care of himself. He's a good father and earns a nice living but he is so disengaged with most of the other stuff. These are the same feelings I've had for a number of years and I dealt with them poorly in the past. It doesn't make me less angry though. I don't see that H is really willing to do the work he needs to do. I have no evidence of that.