I forgot to add that my efforts to detach, be happy, and GAL, all seem to be communicating to my wife that I WANT to get rid of her. She seems to me to be resentful that I seem to be "taking this so well" and am adapting "so easily". That is why I talked to her to let her know I still loved her and would rather we reconcile than part ways. I am walking a tightrope of trying to make sure I am taking care of myself, but also leave the door open for her to approach me. I think a week with her out of town has served me well in that I feel better about being alone. I really had a fear of it before and I don't fear it as much anymore. That can only be good.
You posted this awhile ago, but yes I encounter this same issue too. The act of GAL and detaching makes my wife think that I'm moving away from her. Then I'm in the wierd spot of reassuring her that it is not true.
