Thanks TSquared2..you should write a book with all your knowledge in it. I have heard this a lot lately too. I recently watched a show on the ABC, here in Australia, about couples in crisis, and that exact issue was raised. Its also talked about in John Grays book, Men are from Mars etc. I think at some point, when its the right time (phew..always being careful!), I will expand on our conversation and go into this validating issue a little more. I think he will be responsive to it. He doesn't mind learning from me as long as I don't go into my lecture mode. He does trust me like that. Thanks you gave me some food for thought.