If you think H would read something, I recommend "What Women Want Men to Know"...it's written for guys and REALLY opened my eyes to the "mysterious gender", it's the manual that no one ever told us about...
Hang in there, keep letting him know what you need and want as far as validation, it can take us guys a while to "get" it and get it cemented into ourselves...there was an entry here in piecing that a guy posted:
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Us guys simply do not know how to properly communicate with women. We were never given the tools. So we do what we -think- is right, and it never is. When you tell us how you feel, we -think- we're supposed to fix you. So we respond by saying things like "well you need to do X, Y and Z and the problem will go away." And then we expect you to do that, and tell us how great we are for fixing your problems for you. Of course it's absolutely the wrong response, because instead of validating a woman's feelings we send the message that we don't care, that it's insignificant and easily fixed, that she needs to quit whining. I'm 51 and RetroV was a serious eye-opener for me, it really drove home just how poor a communicator I was with women my whole life when I actually thought I was a GREAT communicator!!
Maybe H would "hear" that?
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
