Thanks again RH you are a kind soul. Your help means a lot to me.
I don't believe H is a MC type. He has told me before not to bother. All this hurts me because it shows me that he is not willing to do much when it means it will put him out of his comfort zone. We had a little chat about the anniversary issue last night. He knows when I'm upset, I try and hide it but I guess he knows me and I guess I have been so busy GAL'ing and 180'ing and keeping my changes going that it was noticable to him that I was quiet. As usual, he got angry at me for feeling rejected like I did. I explained to him that if he was going to ask me what was wrong, he really needed to stop and listen to what I was saying (validate) and not keep telling me I'm wrong and silly for feeling that way. I explained I'm a woman and my anniversary is important to me and I am no different to anyone else in expecting some nice treatment. I said its usually the reason I don't want to open up to him because my feelings are not validated (can understand why its so important in DB'ing). I think he got it. He was a little more sympathetic after that.
There are so many things that need to be worked on here, I don't always want to be the one doing all the hard work. I often think about moving on with my life without him. Its kind of a fantasy of mine. Then he does something that makes me think... I want to grow old with this man..but I have to question, if the feeling is mutual?
