I feel situational anger about specific things atm, but I would not say right now I'm angry that H left or I'm angry that we're divorcing. So I think, at least for me, that Acceptance term is for after the anger. And not really along a line exactly on the route to forgiveness but a separate thing. It's letting go of the anger while the idea of forgiving is not really on the table yet.
Anger got me to acceptance...
Time, (and acceptance), got me to forgiveness...
You are getting there. I can see it in your posts along the way..
Situational anger...
I remember thinking along these lines..
I would get angry about what she was doing, because I didn't understand it, and then I would get angry because I was missing/losing something.
Then I would get angry because she was missing/losing out on a better person....
Because I couldn't accept what she was doing....
When I finally was able to accept what she was doing, I still didn't understand it, although I went along with it.
When I finally understood what she was doing, and accepted it, I also accepted that she wasn't doing it TO me, but rather for herself.
Then, and only then, had I reached a place where I could fully accept, AND forgive her...
