I just wanted to say, reading your threads and everything you post gives me such hope. To see what you have gone/going through and that you have chosen to move towards a happier you is inspiring.
I love what you just wrote above:
"I was really enmeshed with my H's moods and behavior and felt nearly destroyed by his rejection at first, EVEN THOUGH I've always been a really strong independent person with good self esteem. I had a few things wrong and this board helped set me on a better track."
This is exactly how I feel. I'm just at the beginning, but I already feel like I'm on a better track.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D