Why do you fear an argument.? Express yourself calmly and ONLY talk about the breastfeeding.. (because again.. that is really the ground you have to stand on).
If he gets upset, stay calm. Understand his frustrations and say that you are just trying to talk about it.
(You never did answer my question about if it was just your decision or both of yours to be breastfeeding. )
Because if I was him, I would be upset too. The trip isn't next week, it's in 2 months and so there is time to wean your S. And I would be upset that you don't think I could handle my own child for a trip.
Look - your husband has a say. He chose to leave you and yes that does mean less time with his S, but not less responsibility or less say.
You don't get to be the only one making decisions for your child - unless your H was a dead beat dad which he isn't.
I mean - can't you at least consider working towards that? Can't you see how helpful and encouraging that would be?? How supportive?
and more importantly - help build a good co-parenting foundation?
You are saying no right now without actually admitting that it might be okay.
Even though you ideally want to keep breastfeeding, your S COULD be okay in 2 months.
And even though it is SCARY - your H COULD build towards keeping him for an extended period of time.
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Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
