The hardest thing to do sometimes, is to express your feelings without being defensive or placing blame. But, done repeatedly, without expectations, sometimes breaks through the patterns we get stuck in.
I think that is excellent advice.
RLA, you seem to have a lot of anger. Where's this coming from? Have you dug into it?
I have noticed something in my sitch that I wanted to have you think about. I was really controlling, but now that I'm not, I see it in my wife...a lot. It's to the point that I don't feel comfortable doing things around the house because I won't do it "her way." And she really doesn't have a lot of acceptance for me doing it "my way." Do you think you two might have some of that going on?
