H and I had our first discussion about child support and assets last night - and well, it went awful.
He agrees with most of the financial part but wants 50/50 custody. I told him I was not ok with that and he broke down crying and ran the gammut of things from I don't think he's a good dad, I'm trying to control the whole thing like I always due, won't meet him half way, I want his money (what?!), I can get my daddy to get me a lawyer...and finally that he hopes I burn in h#ll. No kidding, he really said that.
I was calm thru this whole thing and kept telling him we would talk about it some other time.
And then he finally got his composure and apologized. And texted later apologizing again.
We are supposed to continue this conversation tonight. He promises to remain calm. It would be in both of our best interest to come to an agreement.
My thoughts on custody is that a child needs a primary caregiver. She's only 2 1/2. I would agree to go joint on legal custody so he has as much say, but I want 50/50 physical.
She will end up with me more often anyway. He didn't even start keeping her overnight until the beginning of February! And this past Saturday was probably the only time he's had her for nearly 24 hours.
And now that we are really going thru with D, I don't feel he should come over in the mornings to take her to daycare anymore. Not being spiteful - but it's really not his home now. Does that sound mean?
Here's hoping I don't get told to burn again tonight!
