Unlearning conflict avoidance 3

[Tallula]

"And finally, when u have these conversations, when she is rude, condescending, yells or belittles you, be prepared to say ya know, W? I luv ya but this attitude is preventing us from having this necessary discussion. Be respectful so we can continue. If not, well talk about this in an hour after you calm down. Im going for a walk. Or something like that. Dont match her vitriol, dont escalate it. Call it out and stop the conversation right there."

My H had started to speak to me this way. I would match the crazy or just back down. Once I voiced that he be respectful or we won't continue, he stopped speaking to me this way. It took multiple times of me saying it. But it stopped. And he said later how much he respected and was attracted to that.