Do any of you find that you feel like you are under a microscope with your WAS? My wife quite often says things to me like "I think you are saying things to me that you think you are supposed to say". This was said to me last night while watching TV together. I had made mention that she has a lot of insight into things that I am not as knowledgeable about or skilled at, such as discerning things about people. I used to not listen to anything she said. I had a need to be right.
After she said that to Me she started expressing her hurt, frustration and anger over my past behavior. I have been a pretty good punching bag. I didn't defend myself. Just said I don't feel that way anymore. Is she saying this stuff because of her fear that I'm just pretending? Or is she just hitting me to express her burning anger at me? Both?
Just gonna be the new me. I really would love to share life together with her.
