Oh, wow! So much to marinate on since I was last here.

This is EXACTLY what I feel about my H. I am showing him respect. Others in my life see that as being a doormat or allowing myself to be hurt. But since I now have boundaries, giving respect to my H has no conditions, nor do his actions define me and my worth the way the once did. Actually, I am more surprised when he is kind. When he is mean, I see this more as a reflection of where he is at, than me. It's pretty awesome.

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D