and thank you for your long, detailed response. I have now emailed my son to ask about his possible summer job. #2 is not so much an issue, as it will not be so expensive, and I also don't want to hear her occasional complaint that I always plan our vacation. There are so many parks near where we are that we can hang loose on this for a while I think.
#3 will happen. One question: what is the limit for a marriage - when do I accept that D is the solution? She is the rejector, the WAW. I don't want to tell the kids that our M no longer worked *because of us both and that this is a mutual decision*.
I will not let her and kids see parks without me. Your pointing out that she and I should work together to make this, possibly our last family vacation, possible, is great and I think will motivate her. If we have to, yes, we can share the kids somehow.
Our last family vacation, last summer, already had girls in one room and boys in the other.
One thing that gets her is my reasonable, polite, mode of talking with her. I think Mr. Bond's point re anger and passion is important, as it is a real 180 for me.
Thanks,
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
