My plan also includes finding love again. My plan still includes the potential of finding love with my ex again. But I now know that it will be a very long road. And more importantly I do not need to alter my path for that potential. The path I am on now is not about a final goal of getting back together with her now. She is a part of my path. She is one of the things I want in my life. But she is not the determiner of my happiness. She can be part of that happiness, but she can not determine it.
I wanted to say that I am really getting a lot from your thread....you are doing a great job on setting your goals! This is where I am striving to be....getting back to the me I have always know was in there, and letting my actions take me to where I want to be! I still miss the family I had, each and every day....I say my prayers, and can only hope that one day that I might have that opportunity to piece things back together with my ex.....But I have a lot to do in the mean time...and just as you said, I want her as a part of it, not the sole determiner of it! Keep up the great progress! She is bound to take a look back eventually and notice the light shining from you life!
M 52 W 40 D 15 (step) S 12 (step) Married 7, together almost 8 Separated 1 year before bomb from her "I love you, I'm just..." BD final 8/22/12
