Heart of the Matter

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I enjoyed reading everyone's thoughts on self-respect and respect for others.

Setting boundaries has been really hard for me. Normally I share everything with DH, but as he has sunk into depression and stopped doing things that I consider respectful to the relationship and me, I have pulled away. I don't think that helps his depression, but I need to detach a bit to help my own mental health. We are still trying to find a balance.

Thanks purplewoman, I read your post in another section. You'll get more feedback if you move it over here. Just create a new thread and just copy and paste it here.

I'm a visual and kinesthetic learner so I read A LOT and always have book suggestions. Have you read Depression Fallout? It focuses on dealing with spouses who are depressed so it might be helpful.

At the time of the BD, I was in the midst of a very deep depression and really didn't know how to fix it. It's been a long, road but with the guidance of a great IC, support here and patience on my part, I'm better than I've ever been.

Good luck to you and keep posting.