My H also said he has "demons" to deal with (but didn't tell me what). Has said many times he's a bad person, a failure, a miserable mess. He has also said he doesn't want to be a burden. I remember a specific incident where I told my H that being in a bad place didn't make him a bad person. He told me he didn't want to hear me say that, to stop
I think this is part of their mlc. On some level they must know what their doing is not rational, but fear drives them to do it anyway. I've heard all the same from W. I used to respond with,"having bad thoughts doesn't make you a bad person, but you must fight to not act on them. I know you, you're not bad." She wouldn't normally say something like you're my H you have to feel that way. Looking back I can see the struggle she was having.
Raine, I love your quote. So appropriate.
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
